Flirting Tips: Don’t Be Vulgar & Get Ahead of 99 Percent of Men on Hookup Sites

A lot of guys make their first mistake in believing that once they get a girl talking to them, it’s all smooth sailing from there.

Wrong. She’s still judging you.

We don’t mean that she’s looking for a reason to tell you to take a hike, but she’s definitely still deciding whether actually hooking up with you is worth her time. As you can see in our table of best and worst hookup site results, a simple email back is no guarantee that a date will even take place.

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Before you meet in person, you’re going to want to do a little flirting. With that in mind, there are three things you need to remember.

1. Women are people. (Bear with us, we’ll explain.)
2. Find a woman who wants what you want.
3. Treat her right.

Now, we’re not saying that you’re some asshole who treats girls like they’re trash. However, a lot of guys get nervous when they talk to women because they don’t exactly know how to interact with them.

After a lifetime of pop culture telling us that men and women will just never understand each other, men are from Mars and Women are from Venus etc., you start to think that women are totally confusing creatures. It seems like it’s impossible to know what a woman could want, because they’re totally impossible to figure out, right?


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Women are no more complicated than men are. They’re usually just more honest about what they’re feeling, and they feel the need to talk about it more. Still, just like there are some guys you know that are really into hooking up and others that are really into staying home, getting high and playing video games, girls are the exact same way. The only difference is that a lot of the time, they lie about what they want because they don’t think they’re allowed to get horny-society tells us that women are “gross” and “bad” if they sleep around, which makes them not want to admit that they like sex.

With that in mind, read over any email, text, or IM you’re about to send to a girl and ask yourself first, “How would I react to getting this same email?” If you’re going to ask her to show her tits, think. How would you feel if you sent a message about how pretty she was and she texted back, “show me ur balls or stfu”?

Yes, women are sexy creatures and we want to get with them, but they’re not mythical creatures. They’re just humans like anyone else, no matter how confusing they were in middle school.

With that in mind, let’s move on to number two. Find a woman who wants what you want.

If you’re looking for a hookup, pay attention to profiles. A lot of girls put right in their profiles that they’re actually looking for a long-term relationship! You can easily identify these by girls who say things in their profiles like, “Im looking for a good time that can maybe lead to more…. ;)”

This girl is looking for a relationship. This is not a girl who’s saying she wants to hang out and maybe hook up. This is a girl that’s saying she wants to hook up and maybe have a relationship.

If you’re looking for a relationship, get to an actual dating site. If you’re just looking to hook up and have fun, this is a good place-but you have to make sure you’re looking for the same things as the girls you hook up with. Otherwise, you’re going to find yourself seriously lacking companionship when the chips are down, and you’ll probably have to deal with a terribly clingy girl.

Number three: treat her right.

Again, we’re not saying that you’re some creep who treats all women like they’re trash.

What we ARE saying is that there’s an element of reciprocity involved, especially in hookups. With relationships, girls will assume that even if something goes wrong on the first or second date, they might want to give a guy the benefit of the doubt and let him try again.

With a hookup, they’re VERY quick to judge-and to write a guy off if he doesn’t perform well. They can just tell themselves, “Well, that was a bad idea, but at least I never have to see him again.”

If you make sure a girl has a GREAT time in bed her first time with you, that’s a girl that’s probably going to come back for more again and again. She can easily transform into a long-term hookup for you-NOT a relationship, but a booty call whenever you get the itch.

A good way of making sure these girls don’t get too clingy is to tell them that you’re usually out of town for work. It makes them work harder to please!

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