Tactics for Getting Her Phone Number on the Second Chat With Her

So you sent a great first email (check out our guide to sending a great first email on a hookup site), and now you’ve got a girl interested.


However, if you’re not careful, you can wind up going back and forth with emails on hookup sites for days, without any sign of getting closer to a meet-up (which is really the whole point of hookup sites).

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Even if you move to online chatting, how can you take that to the next level? You’re here to hook up fast, not to make a pen-pal.

Fortunately, we’ve got you covered. We’ve discovered some pretty easy ways to get a girl not only to fork over her number, but to give it to you as early as your SECOND CHAT with her.

The first thing you need to remember is that you can NOT put pressure on her to give you her phone number. Here’s an example of the easiest way to turn a girl off of ever meeting you in person:

Guy: Hey babe
Girl: hey
Guy: I was thinking about you today 😉
Girl: hehe like what
Guy: we could meet up today, gimme your number
Girl: hmmm…maybe….
Guy: come on babe you can trust me, I just wanna talk to you

This is BAD PRESSURE. Remember, girls don’t know you’re not a creeper. As far as they know, you’re going to take that phone number and somehow turn into their stalker. Above all else, you want to avoid turning into a creepy stalker, especially if you aren’t one.

Another bad way of dealing with the situation is to try and guilt her into it. Never send her a message that says something like, “Well if you REALLY liked me, you’d give me your number.” You might think it’s cute, flirty, or teasing, but a girl will find that really obnoxious and weird. They might even think that you’re really clingy, which a lot of girls want to avoid when they log on to hookup dating websites.

The easiest way to get a girl’s number as early as your second chat is to find a way to make it organic, so it’s totally a logical leap for you to suggest it, and she’d be the weird one for not giving it to you.

Now, this is where a little digging comes in handy!

Go to her profile and find something that it looks like she’d be interested in. Try music, sports, movies, something like that. The more interested you are in the subject, the less painful it will be for you in the long run. You CAN fake an interest in it, but it probably won’t be any fun for you in the future, and it won’t sound as organic.

Now that you’ve found a few things she might be interested in, look around your area (or the area you’re planning to hook up in). Find an event that’s at least a little bit related to the thing you’re finding on her profile.

It doesn’t have to be perfect. It just has to relate enough that it doesn’t look weird that you’re inviting her.

Of course, this tactic does work a lot better in the big city. If you live in a small rural town, unless you’re both prepared to take a long drive together with someone you barely know, you’d better hope her interests are something like “picnicking” or “walking.” Sorry, bro.

Once you’ve found out a cool event (or at least one you’ll be able to deal with), ask her to meet you there.

DO NOT offer to take her there.

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This is not a date. This is a hookup date. You are not paying for her ticket, and you are not going to pick her up, unless you actually WANT a real date. Just say, “I’m already going to ____, do you want to meet up there?”

If she does, great! That means you have a reason that isn’t creepy to ask for her phone number. After all, how else are you going to get in touch with her when you both get to the event?

And once you get her phone number, quickly send her a text just saying, “Got it! Is this the right number?”

From there, it should be easy to move on to texting from your previous online conversations. Most girls prefer to text anyway, and it’ll help reinforce her notion that you’re someone she can reach when she wants a little sugar.

Don’t feel like you ALWAYS have to respond, though. Sometimes it’s better to wait for a few hours and send, “Sorry, was in a meeting.”

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