First Date Strategy: Maximize Your Chances of Getting Laid on the First Date

So, you’ve done everything right.

You’ve made a great profile, you’ve put up a fantastic picture, you’ve sent a perfect email, and you’ve gotten the girl’s number. Even better, you’ve set up a date.

So, where do you go from here?

Let’s be honest, here. You’re going to try and get her in bed on that first date. After all, this is a HOOKUP, not some girl you have to court and dance with and ask for her father’s hand before you get the goods.

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Let’s take you through the date. When you first show up, whether it’s to a dinner or a bar or a concert or a slam poetry jam (you poor bastard), you’re going to want to keep one thing in mind before you get there.

Don’t be vulgar.

This is the biggest thing that will have a chick “go to the bathroom” and slip out a goddamn window. Most of the time, if a girl leaves a first date without an explanation, it’s because the guy pissed her off without realizing it, and she got angry and left without an explanation.

Remember, the easiest thing you can do to get laid is act like the kind of guy she’d actually want to get laid by. You’re fulfilling her fantasy, you’re not out to scratch an itch (even if you are).

Don’t focus on body parts.

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A lot of guys struggle to say a good first compliment, scared that it’ll either sound rehearsed and trite or it’ll make the girl think you’re being crass and crude. Here are a list of compliments that are pretty much always appropriate:

  • “You look gorgeous.”
  • “I can’t even think of what to say, you just made my mind go blank.”
  • “Wow, your smile looks even more beautiful in real life.”
  • “You light up the room.”

They’re boring, but at least none of these are going to offend any of the girls that will meet you for a hookup date. These are classy, timeless compliments that work no matter what she’s wearing or where you’ve taken her.

By comparison, here are some common compliments to AVOID GIVING AT ALL COSTS:

  • “You are SO much hotter than the last girl I hooked up with.”
  • “You got fries with that shake?”
  • “You’re a LOT hotter than your picture.”
  • “I didn’t expect you to have such huge tits!”

Some of them are pretty obvious, but you’d be surprised how many guys strike out right away by saying one of these failure lines. If you actually want to hook up with a woman, make sure you don’t make those mistakes.

Another thing to remember is that you should NOT focus on a body part. It doesn’t seem to make sense-after all, if you like it, why not mention it, or give it a compliment? After all, we like it when girls talk about how muscled our arms are.

Yeah, it’s not the same. Girls are WEIRDLY touchy about just about any body comments aside from a very general, “You’re beautiful.” Here’s a handy list of places on a woman it’s okay to compliment:

  • Eyes
  • Smile
  • Hair
  • Hands

That’s basically it. Sorry. It doesn’t make sense to us, either. Literally everything else is off-limits.

Next, be honest with her. Tell this girl straight up that you’re not looking for love, you’re looking for someone you can hook up with. Chances are, she’s looking for the exact same thing. If you handle it in a mature way, she’ll be more likely to do the same.

Girls HATE the stereotype that all girls want marriage. Young, hot girls like to mess around and hook up as much as guys do.

Don’t act like it’s the end of the world.

At NO point in the first date should you ever ask, “So, are we gonna hook up tonight?” There’s an old saying about job hunting: “If you need an answer now, the answer is no.”

The longer you give her to think about it, the better. If you can just calmly act like it’s no big deal whether she goes home with you or not, you’ll probably get lucky.

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