You’re with a lady and all you want to do is make her feel totally amazing. You want to get down, get busy and make her toes curl and her voice crack. One of the most intimate things that you can do with your lady is giving her a massage. We all use this as part of our arsenal when we are trying to please our women. The problem? A lot of us don’t know what the hell we’re doing when we’re rubbing women down. We sat a few babes down and asked them what men do and don’t do correctly during the massage stage of the night.
Use No / Too Much Oil
Girls report that they either feel like a dude is pulling her skin off or trying to give her an oil bath. There is a happy medium. What you want to do is get a little bit of oil or massage wax on your hands and rub them together. Your hands should be moist, but not dripping. If you have any dry spots on your hands, add a little more. Let’s be honest, if you don’t know how to use oil and rub one out we don’t quite know what to tell you. You know how skin on skin chafing feels, don’t do it to her back.
Too much oil, by contrast, will make her feel like she’s getting dirty and needs a shower. It’s not a sexy feeling to be totally covered in oil for most chicks. They feel gross and not sexy. That means that they’re not going to be in the mood for much.
Focus on the Wrong Parts
Look, we love a woman’s boobs as much as anyone else, but they don’t have muscles. They don’t need massaged. Most chicks feel like their dudes are only rubbing their shoulders to get access at their racks and that’s disingenuous at best and kinda skeevy at worst. The point of giving your lady a massage is to relax her and make her feel comfortable. It’s not to just give you better access to the T and A. Give the groping a rest during the massage and focus on whatever is tight. Trust us; there will be time to get it on later.
Not Enough Focus on the Right Parts
Another thing that women complain about is that men don’t focus on the parts of their bodies that actually hurt. For some reason they have found that men don’t focus on the parts of their backs or legs that hurt. People, regardless of gender, hold their stress in key areas. Usually these areas are between the shoulders, the small of the back, and the calves. If you really want to put her up to heaven, start at these pressure points and ask her if she’s got more. Don’t forget to rub her calves when you’re moving to her feet, she will totally thank you for it. Remember to ask if anything is too rough when you are rubbing her down, take it slow, and let her feel pampered. It’s important to not rush through any good massage, that will just make her feel stressed out and like you’re only paying her lip service to get to what you really want.